What is love?

So many times we hear: I'm in love, I love you, I adore you....

But did you ever stopped and asked yourself this simple question: What is love?

Before I leave this question and wait for some answers I'll answer myself what is love for me.

Love for me is much more than like someone because is pretty, is beautiful, is hot, has money, has a nice job and others nonsenses.

Love wasn't made to be painful, to make us cry most of the time, to make us argue all the time, to be distrust. Wasn't made to have just a few hours during the day because we already have other plans and we can't cancel them. Wasn't made to be lived only from one side and the other just stays because is good to have someone who loves us. Love is much more than just give, is about give and receive back; of course one side will always love more than the other, even our body is not completely symmetrical, how could be two persons completely different love in the same amount?

Love for me is starting liking the defects of each other, we must respect the other person the way it is, or otherwise we would never fell in love for that person. Is easy to love the qualities but is really hard to love the defects. Why should we wanna change someone to our image and require the other person to lose its essence, the same essence mixed with the qualities and defects make us fell in love for?

Love is wanting to be with someone, not spending only some hours in a week, sometimes is hard to find that time but when we really want, we can try to figure it out. When that time is really short and we can't do much more about it, should we spend that time arguing, fighting, saying nonsenses or should we enjoy every single millisecond we do have? If that time is short we really should enjoy it, but if the is long "what should we do?" The same thing we did when we had short time, enjoy as much as possible every single millisecond as well.

Like I use to say:"live now, life is luck and the time is short".

It seem likes I do live in a wonderful and beauty word and where everything is perfect, I don't and I know even in most perfect couples living the real love there will be misunderstandings, dislikes, fights and others stuffs. What should we do in those situations? I think the the answer is very easy, we have a great gift, the gift of talk and understanding. Yes, you read well, is just about talk, left one side express itself and the other does the same. I'm not saying we should accept everything the other wants, but we should always respect each other thoughts and opinion and try to find what will be reasonable for both. Is not about who will win or who loses, we have to know not only to be stubborn but to know when to retreat. (I really know what I'm talking about, I'm stubborn as hell)

A lot of people says a girlfriend and a boyfriend can't be really friends. I completely disagree with that, in my point of view they should try to be the best friends, not forgetting the best friend each other already has. How can someone say a relationship can't be built in friendship? Do you wanna have someone for the rest of your life which you can't talk all the time, make you laugh all the time, be able to just listen you, to tell a secret and so many others things. Thats what a friend does right? So wouldn't you like to have someone by your side which you could do all those things with?

Respect simple word, but so many times doesn't make part of our vocabulary. Can we really hope to have a long relationship without respect for each other? What is respect? Is not only respect each other when is in font of us, is respect each as well on the back. Respect is know the boundaries of each other, know the limits of those boundaries and respect the space of each other.

Trust, small word with only5 letters, but when is applied I bet with you so many relationships would be saved and so many problems would be avoided. Is not easy to have it, we should every single day try to earn a bit more of trust in a relationship. I'm not saying we should blind trust, thats why I said should be earn. Both in a relationship should do that hard work, but I can bet again with you in the end both will be winners.

In a few words thats what is love for me.

What is love for you?

If you read this please let me know what is love for you, you don't need to reply in English if you don't want to.

Thanks in advance.

Thanksgiving

Today I passed my first Thanksgiving.

I used to watch this celebration on american movies, but this year I celebrate it, I ate the turkey. Is the favorite american celebration, why? Because on this date they only eat, watch TV and Friday they have "Black Friday". On Black Friday lots of stores will be open at 5 am and close at 9 am. Yes you read well 5h in the morning. Is very common to find queues from 23h and 00h untill the doors open, people waiting for crazy prices in all kind of stores: books, clothes, electronics etc.

Some of you don't know why they celebrate the Thanksgiving, I didn't as well. I just learn this last days.

Thanksgiving or Thanksgiving Day, celebrated on the fourth Thursday in November, has been an annual tradition in the United States since 1863, when during the Civil War, President Abraham Lincolnproclaimed a national day of thanksgiving to be celebrated on Thursday, November 26.

The event that Americans commonly call the "First Thanksgiving" was celebrated to give thanks to God for helping the Pilgrims of Plymouth Colony survive their first brutal winter in New England. The first Thanksgiving feast lasted three days, providing enough food for 53 pilgrims and 90 Native Americans. The feast consisted of fish (cod, eels, and bass) and shellfish (clams, lobster, and mussels), wild fowl(ducks, geese, swans, and turkey), venison, berries and fruit, vegetables (peas, pumpkin, beetroot and possibly, wild or cultivated onion), harvest grains (barley and wheat), and the Three Sisters: beans, dried Indian maize or corn, and squash. The New England colonists were accustomed to regularly celebrating "Thanksgivings"—days of prayer thanking God for blessings such as military victory or the end of a drought.

Long time, lot a things happened...

Since May, the last time I post something so many things happened. I'll do a very short resume of what happened in the last months.

The year is almost in the end and I'm still in New Jersey, USA. What I did in all the time I already spent here? I can say, thats a very good question.

Say New Jersey or say New York it will be more or less the same. But now you'll be thinking this guy is completely nuts. Hold on, what I wanted to say is in terms of location and proximity. In New Jersey you don't have almost nothing to do, you have only one thing to do: GO TO NYC. There is not much to say about New York, just all the things we watch in the movies are all true, it's an amazing city. Definitely the top 1 city in the world for me, I would live in NYC Manhattan without any problem.

When you hear NYC one of your thought will be USA, but now I can tell you Manhattan is completely different than the rest of USA. Here in USA you have: NYC, Miami, Las Vegas, Boston, LA and Hollywood. All the rest is so deadly boring, but when i say boring is really boring with boring people. But those same people in the other nice cities they will become nice and not boring.

Besides NYC I visited already Washington DC, the capital. Is nice because of the monuments you have there to see. I got very disappointed with the white house, I was expecting something big and splendid, I found something small and not so shine as I was expecting. On the other hand the Capitol was really amazing and impressive I liked it a lot.

Philadelphia, the city where the north american constitution was written, cozy city and with the best beef cheese-steak sandwich in USA. Thats right beef with cheese all together inside of a sandwich.

Niagara Falls, I don't have a vast English vocabulary to describe by words how amazed I was when I was staring at the falls. Just incredible and so damn beautiful. The nature really does amazing things and the Niagara Falls is one of those amazing things the nature is capable of.

After being in Niagara I went to Toronto, Canada. I was expecting to find a city/country very similar to USA, in terms of living, life itself but for my surprise I found something completely different. I thought somehow I went back to Europe, instead of miles kilometers, everywhere you could find some French words. The city Toronto as one of the most tallest building in the world, the communications tower, it is really tall. The night life in Toronto is something, is really something... I really recommend it..

Vegas... What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas :)

But now will come the best part of my mission here in USA. 18th of July, was the day I started talking with an amazing and beautiful girl. We met through Facebook, we had some friends in common but we never talked. From that day onwards we use to talk almost every day. What we talked? We use to talk about life, perspectives of seeing life, perspectives of living, basically we use to talk about everything. 15th of August, I went to Portugal for another two weeks of vacations. One of the best two weeks in Portugal I've ever had. Why? Because the amazing and beautiful girl I met on Facebook made me spent an amazing and delicious time with her.

We were heading to a dead end, the dead end would be us being dating. We knew beforehand would be very tuff and not easy at all a distance relationship. But something inside of me was telling me give it a shot. Live now, life is luck and time is short. And was what I did, I gave it a shot, and nowadays we are still together and more in love than ever.

I can't wait to have her in my arms, feel her breath near to my ear, feel those lips near to mine, feel her touch on my skin, feel her body touching mine.

One special word to my comrades who put it up with me in all those trips around USA. Thank you Ravic, Hugo and Bruno.

Was good to put all this down, I can say is good to be back on track....

See you guys soon..

Back Again...

As been a while since the last time I wrote something here. And I guess you have made this question: Why only one post? The answer is very easy, is not because I don't have stories to tell, adventure I haven't had or I stopped dreaming. Laziness.

I would love to post like my goddaughter use to do, every single day even if is just to post: "I don't want to write anything today". But I've been with so much laziness in my body to keep up with my blog. I'll try now to keep it up, and more than that use it to express myself, with more than my stories and adventures, I'll post about football (soccer), about life, about what's is around me and what I would like to have around.

I want to give some words to some persons, those who wanted me to start back again with my posts. Thanks to all of you guys I'm back on track, I hope for longer time now.. :)